Is a new breed of men cropping up?!

Yes...i know, i am told we are evolutionary species, and we do change with time. That is what is expected, anyway. But is it possible, really, that these brothers of ours are catching up? Could there be a new version of men, walking among us? :-)

I had a cherished visit from one of my log-book relatives from my dad's side yesterday, the very few who contact us anyway, and it was very interesting. Like any long lost 'relatives' we were updating each other on all the new development in our lives. It was a nice nostalgic experience we had, really.

Among the many new things that had happened to this boy, is that he had gotten a girl pregnant, moved her in with him, is paying for her school and is now raising a two year old girl while the mama is in school in another county!
Not surprised? Well, this boy, the one doing all these things, this boy, is just 22 years old!!!

Pardon me for acting so surprised, i was actually more angry as he was telling me all these stories. And i wish you could be there to see the look in his eyes, and the pride, and the confidence with which he was explaining these unfoldings to me. I was tempted to curl him up and put him on my back and soothe him to sleep. Probably when he woke up, he would realize it was all just a dream and come back to his senses.
Was this kid naive or what? Did he even know what he was talking about? I was amazed and confused to say the least. I was not sure whether to feel sad for him or to pat his back and congratulate him!

Here is a 22 year old boy, who willingly takes a pregnant girl in, pays for her school fees in a medical related school or something, pays rent, takes care of the baby's needs, stays at home to be with the baby while the mum goes to school!

I had a million and one questions in my head that i just could not voice. And after staring at him for so long, i finally managed to ask only one. 'Why are you doing all this?' i asked.

According to me, this boy had lost it. What about him? What about what he wanted to do? What about the opportunities and the potential he had to make something of himself? How does he end up at home with the baby and taking care of all expenses while the girl is easy breezy in another town, apparently in school? And how the hell did he end up here, looking to sell his television so that he could raise 14,000/- for her exam fees. Really?!!

 And the answer he gave me, was he was willing and ready to do everything for this girl just to show her his gratitude for loving him and agreeing to have his baby!
He apparently did not care what happened, whether she left or not, cheated or not, all he wanted to do was give his wife (yes, he calls her his wife) and his baby everything he can! And well, he says, the girl had nowhere to go and if he had left her she would have actually died! (Read killed herself) Is this boy just being played like a fiddle or what?


I was flabbergasted!

I mean what happened to those men who just do those hit and run stints? What happened to getting a girl pregnant and then denying that the baby is yours?
Or, or maybe acknowledging that the pregnancy is yours and then doing a disappearing act like you were wiped off the face of the earth?
What happened to dumping her at your rural home and moving on with your life while she toils and toils to feed the rest of your family.
What happened to normal 22 year old boys drinking and raving themselves stupid because apparently 'the party don't stop'? 

Granted, they are not the best of behaviors, and yes, everyone expects men to behave better than this. But to tell you the truth, women have had enough years of experience to know how to deal with such. We don't like it but we can manage. But this change of pattern? What is this? huh?

Seriously, is it that we women have become gurus at playing this manipulation game or  is a new breed of men coming up?
Is there an updated version on the release, say like "man 2.0" or something? Are men really changing and becoming more humane?
Or could it be that this is one of the indirect results of the many years of 'girl-child campaigns'? Are our efforts paying off?

Should we women let our guards down now and welcome a new breed of men that are more giving, considerate and responsible or is this case more the exception than the norm?






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